Etiquette of Conversation (Part 1)

Islamic Etiquette of Conversation

Cambridge Dictionary defines conversation as a talk between two or more people in which thoughts, feelings and ideas are expressed, questions are asked and answered, or news and information are exchanged

Islamic Manners Concerning Conversation

While conversing with others, a Muslim must keep away from falsehood, slander, backbiting and shameful talk. He should protect his tongue from all that Allah and His Messenger (pbuh) have forbidden.

Silence is sometimes a source of safety and security. The tongue is like a beast of prey. If you do not control it, it will surely land you in trouble. The Prophet (pbuh) said, “Those who keep quiet will be safe.”

(At-Tirmidhee: saheeh)

This means that a Muslim is required to keep quiet especially to avoid evil speech to be saved from evil in this life and the Hereafter. He should not talk about things that do not concern him, nor should he engage in any kind of speech from which he may not get any benefit. Failure to control the tongue is the fastest way to Hellfire.

The Prophet’s excellent qualities in eloquence and fluency of speech are well known. He was fluent, very concise and very clear. He used meaningful words and his speech was free from affectation. He never used too few or too many words. It was as if his speech consisted of threaded pearls. He had a loud voice which was melodious. His speech was so clear that all those who listened to him understood him.

The Teachings of the Prophet (pbuh) concerning Conversation

Sufyan ibn Abdullah once asked the Prophet (pbuh), “Messenger of Allah, tell me something that I should adhere to.” He replied, “Say: My Lord is Allah, then remain steadfast.” Sufyan then asked, “Messenger of Allah, what do you fear most for me?” The Prophet (pbuh) took hold of his own tongue and said, “This!”

(At-Tirmidhee)

Even the slightest carelessness by the tongue can make all the other organs suffer. The Prophet (pbuh) said, “When the son of Adam gets up in the morning, all the organs (of his body) humble themselves before the tongue and say, “Fear Allah for our sake because we are with you. If you are straight, we will be straight, but if you are crooked, we will also be crooked.”

(At-Tirmidhee)

The Prophet (pbuh) also said, “It is great treachery that you tell your brother something he accepts as truth from you when you are lying.”

(Abu Dawood)

He also said, “Woe to him who tells lies to make people laugh; woe to him: woe to him!”

(At-Tirmidhee)

 

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